Infidelity is one of many relationship issues, and it can be among the most destructive. However, licensed marriage and family therapist Laura Melgosa offers couples counseling and marriage counseling to residents of San Ramon, CA, and surrounding communities looking to resolve their conflicts and build a stronger foundation.
Therapy for Infidelity
Infidelity or unfaithfulness is a common cause of many relationship breakdowns, but it doesn’t have to be the end of yours. Some couples can overcome such issues on their own. However, couples counseling and marriage counseling can play an integral role in healing from infidelity, resolving conflict, and working through relationship issues to come out stronger on the other side. Below, Laura dives deeper into unfaithfulness and its impact on couples, as well as how therapy can benefit residents of San Ramon and surrounding communities trying to work through such events.
Unfaithfulness and Its Impact on Relationships
Betrayal in a relationship can come in many forms. In some cases, it’s a physical affair. In others, it’s cyber flirtation and pornography. There are also times when nothing sexual – even thoughts – is involved. Instead, one party in the relationship develops a strong emotional bond with an outside party, which may lead to long phone calls and spending lots of time and money with that person.
With all of these forms, the impact depends on the other partner’s view of and feelings toward the situation. They may not care about social media selfy posts but care very much about emotional bonds and physical relationships. When they feel as though their partner has crossed the line, it can lead to many issues, including:
- Shame
- Lack of self-worth
- Confusion
- Anger
- Lack of trust
- Resentment
The other party may also be confused, especially if they don’t understand why it's an issue. They may also feel guilt, shame, and other negative feelings.
Benefits of Therapy
Therapy can help in many ways, including those below.
- Clarity: If the “rules” are unclear, someone is bound to cross a line. Discussing how you each feel about certain actions can help you see one another’s sides.
- Expressing thoughts and emotions: Therapy can provide a safe space for both parties to communicate about the unfaithfulness, which can help tear down walls. It can also help both parties process their own emotions, which can combat guilt, shame, self-esteem issues, and more.
- Resolution: Over time, you can work together to determine the best and healthiest way forward so you can enjoy a closer future with one another.
If you live in San Ramon or surrounding communities and need help overcoming infidelity, relationship issues, or another type of conflict, call (925) 922-2775 to schedule a couples counseling or marriage counseling session with Laura Melgosa.